My father told me that one of the most important things he learned when he was at university was that you can't change someone's mind during an argument, because an argument when it's happening is a kind of fight, and people are defensive and entrenched then - the only people who learn to relax during arguments and philosophers and lawyers, because it's part of their job.
The best you can hope for is to make your point and know when no more information is being exchanged. Then you get out, and let your point of view stew in the other person's head. They often come round, but only later, when the pressure is off.
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Re: *Developmental psychology hat on*
Date: 2010-07-08 12:11 pm (UTC)The best you can hope for is to make your point and know when no more information is being exchanged. Then you get out, and let your point of view stew in the other person's head. They often come round, but only later, when the pressure is off.